[3360] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: Wishing I didn't have a heart
celine@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (celine@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Thu Oct 1 01:26:06 1992
I apologize in advance for news style quoting, but I figured I'd reply
to multiple messages, since it's all on the same thread.
jtidwell writes:
> Why do you *have* to go through a tremendous amount of pain in order to
> end up with a working relationship?
I did make it sound like you have to go through suffering, didn't I?
What I meant was suffering is common in looking for a working
relationship, not that *each* relationship must involve suffering. I
meant to say most people have to go through a lot of pain before
finding something that works, that is, if they find something that
works.
It sounds like you lucked out. Congratulations. :)
merlin writes:
> Maybe I'm a bit of a masochist. Despite my conviction that I'd be far
> better off as a Vulcan, I wouldn't choose to be devoid of emotion.
Spock was my role model, too. So I'm a control freak. I think I have
the right to be in control of myself.
merlin writes:
> I seem to be stuck with feelings, whether or not I want them, so the
> only intelligent thing to do is to try to get things to come out right
> for once, even if it's hopeless.
Trying to make one's feelings disappear isn't the answer. There's a
difference between not having feelings and not being ruled by them.
If I could believe I had a reasonable chance of ending up with a
working relationship without going through an emotional meatgrinder, I
would consider it. In my life, I have seen much evidence to suggest
this is rarely the case. Also, there's transaction 467 in this
meeting...
dcctdw writes:
> but i agree, on a general level, life is much better with contrasts
> than without.
I must admit, I wholeheartedly disagree :)
