[24041] in APO-L
Re: [APO-L] Intrachapter dating
daemon@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (Buddha Buck)
Sun Dec 7 20:58:25 2003
Date: Sun, 7 Dec 2003 20:58:18 -0500
Reply-To: Buddha Buck <bmbuck@14850.com>
From: Buddha Buck <bmbuck@14850.com>
To: APO-L@LISTSERV.IUPUI.EDU
In-Reply-To: <001101c3bd2a$bd2090d0$aaedaf80@famtree>
Michael Gallagher wrote:
> Greetings,
>
> What policies on intrachapter dating exist? Has there ever been a situation
> when a Brother's/officer's/VPM's fiance(e) has pledged? What has been done
> in these situations.
My chapter (Epsilon Sigma, University at Buffalo) didn't have an oficial
policy on intrachapter dating while I was there. In fact, there were
lots of cases of brothers dating brothers. There are a handful of
intrachapter marriages as well.
While there was no official policy, for risk-management reasons
brother/pledge dating and especially big/little dating (during the
pledge period) was frowned upon because of power/harassment issues. If
the relationship predated the pledge pledging, then it wasn't frowned upon.
In my pledge class, two pledges started dating each other, and
immediately after the brotherhood ritual, two Brother/NIB relationships
(one big/little) were announced. As I understand it, one of those
clandestine brother/pledge relationships ended up in a marriage.
(To make things even weirder, the *other* boyfriend of one of the two
pledges who started dating each other pledged the next semester).
>
> I've never been on a date, but I would think that fiance(e)s pledging is
> different from boyfriends & girlfriends pledging .
>
> In LFS,
>
> Michael Gallagher
> Historian & Alumni VP (gotta get used to this; I was Webmaster or co- since
> Spring 2002)
