[4523] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: What do people want out of relationships?
tiuzzol@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (tiuzzol@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Thu Apr 21 05:18:53 1994
> Especially if you can get
> things like sex, cooking, etc. from a friendship.
I've had many friends on many different levels. And I don't think there
is any comparison to having a serious relationship. As one of my friends
once said, the difference between a friendship and a relationship is that
if you come home unexpectedly late, you have to explain why. This sounds
negative, but that closeness, and that expectancy is what I find
special. The knowledge that I can come home and know that someone will
be there for me (or has at least said they won't be) is the difference.
The knowledge that on a regular basis this person will be here, that we'll
be busy together, that we'll do things together, that we'll eat together,
or that at the very least, every night we will make the time to catch
up on the other's life. This is not something you can expect from your
friends. Even your best friends. You may get that kind of attention, but
you can't really *count on* it...
