[750] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: Relationships
eichin@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (eichin@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Tue Feb 28 19:59:18 1989
>trying to break down your decision...
This one is tough both ways --- he thinks you're not sure so he has a chance,
but if he is too "actively interest" you might take it wrong; he thinks you're
interesting enough to pay more attention to, etc. And you have to deal with
having your decision, but not being sure if he is really sincere/whatever
and then having it not work out anyway...
> Well, ok. So I lose. But I don't think I was wrong. ...
Yeah... even when everything is going right, the relationship is wonderful/fun/
whatever, you can still lose. Worst caase, nobody's wrong, it just works
out that way, and everybody loses. Sigh, mrphf.
>rather have stayed indifferent to him, if this was to be the outcome.
One thing to think about - did you have fun, or rather where you happy while
you were "not staying indifferent"? Remeber that instead. If not, maybe you
have something to adjust your perspective by for the future.
I saw too many people tearing themselves apart in the aftermaths of
relationships that had, on the whole, gone well... so I have to say this.
If for no other reason than to reassure myself...
