[296] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: Yet more male/female courtship stuff, but at least it's more depressing than the weather.
dkk@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (dkk@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Thu Sep 1 03:21:28 1988
Andrew, it is human nature to change from `bad' to `just as bad'
in a different way. Be careful. By deciding to change your ways,
you may be changing yourself into another form of "fraud", as
you called yourself. You may find yourself sleeping around
with dozens of beautiful women whose names you can't remember. 8-)
Seriously, though, it sounds like you are living a life basically
similar to mine. I used to be the ultimate nerd, I get along
better with adults than my peers, and my friends tell me it always
sounds `wrong' when I swear. I had my first date at the age of 22.
I used to (and still do, to a lesser extent) shun relationships
in order to maintain my independence. The `normal' state, in my
view, is not to hunt for an SO, but not to deny opportunities.
The key to finding an SO, if that's what you wish, is to make
those opportunities more likely to happen, and to use them.
You will probably want to pay more attention to your looks,
you mannerisms, your stance, your smile, and all those other
embarrassing things that people practice in the mirror when
they're alone. You will probably want to alter your speech to
not exclude potential SO's. (ie: Don't talk Tech at a movie
theater. Everyone will think you're a nerd...and they'll be
right.)
There's endless advice that we could all give you, but I don't
have endless time to type (want to discuss it (vocally) sometime?)
and most of the advice is probably useless, though probably not
wrong. I mainly wanted to warn you not to sway to the other
extreme. (Have you been listening to datuv too much recently? 8-)
