[2708] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: argh
raeburn@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (raeburn@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Wed Jan 22 03:38:55 1992
If you want someone to come listen to you, an anonymous transaction in
coatrack isn't the way to find them.
It's surprisingly easy to find someone willing to listen, if you ask; the
tough part is often just being willing to open up to them. Someone who'll
offer *useful* advice, or otherwise be able to help much, is hard to find,
but someone to listen is easy. Go find someone you want to talk to. Just
wishing for the right person to show up on your doorstep asking you to
pour your heart out to them doesn't cut it. (If you complain at people a
lot, you might have to go find someone you haven't complained at before,
so they aren't tired of listening to you.)
I've one or two friends now I'm often willing to really open up to, but in
the past when I've expressed frustration at not having anyone to talk to
(or at), I've gotten offers from unexpected quarters. Not people I
wouldn't want to talk to about such things, just people I wouldn't have
necessarily expected to be that concerned about me.
