[1018] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: Above All
jik@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (jik@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Wed Mar 21 22:32:09 1990
I'd love to have a girlfriend too. I remind you (with some
depression on my own part) that you've had one in college, while I
haven't. So count your blessings (that seems to be something you are
particularly bad at doing). If your relationship with Julie was a
"very pleasant and rewarding thing," then be glad that you had it and
look forward to the next such experience.
However, don't let the fact that you don't have a girlfriend at this
very instant in time paralyze you. "A watched pot never boils," "Good
things come to those who wait," "Patience is a virtue," and all that
stuff. They may sound hokey, but they haven't all become cliched by
being wrong.
Your problem is that you don't realize that *everybody* worries
about the repecussions of their major decisions. *Everybody* worries
about whether or not they've "done the right thing." You've probably
done more in the past two and a half years than some people do in
their entire lives, so you've naturally had more to worry about.
I'm just about ready to give up on trying to talk you out of your
depressions. Honestly, I think that for some reason you want and/or
need to get depressed. Trying to talk you out of it is like talking
to a brick wall, and you invariably eventually come out of it anyway.
I'll bet you never did what you promised your parents you'd do,
either. I don't think you want to find out why you get depressed.
Does that mean you don't want it to stop? I don't know. Perhaps you
do. Or you should.
