[24048] in APO-L
Re: [APO-L] Intrachapter dating
daemon@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (Fuzzy Logic)
Mon Dec 8 10:27:11 2003
Date: Mon, 8 Dec 2003 10:08:52 -0500
Reply-To: Fuzzy Logic <fuzzman@m-net.arbornet.org>
From: Fuzzy Logic <fuzzman@m-net.arbornet.org>
To: APO-L@LISTSERV.IUPUI.EDU
In-Reply-To: <000201c3bd38$0d906150$ee01220a@Shadowone>
I've mentioned this before and I should probably again.
While I was VPM (which also included Pledgemaster in my chapter), I
started dating a pledge. She actually broke up with my little to date me.
That said, she and I broke up before the end of pledging, and she still
activated with all the rest of the pledges.
While not the brightest move on my part, in some cases, there can be clear
deliniation between Pledge and significant other. I have to say that the
stress of maintaining the separation was incredible, and I wouldn't
recommend it.
The best advice I can give is to be very careful to show no favoritism.
Fuzzy
Section 88 Staff
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On Sun, 7 Dec 2003, Paul Haring wrote:
> In Omega chapter we have had some recent history with this issue. In
> fall 2001, the semester just before I pledged there was an incident
> where a Pledge was dating the pledge educator. The exact details as to
> whether or not they were dating BEFORE he pledged is not easily
> answered. However, what is is the fact that it caused a huge rift in
> the chapter. The situation ended when the Educators term came up (we
> re-elect in the winter for two semesters) and they both have been a
> phantom in our chapter ever since.
>
> We have a few instances of inter-chapter dating on the active/active
> level and one of those just recently turned to engagement.
>
> Long story short, our chapter (probably around 120-150 members. We just
> activated 41 pledges today so I don't know the exact numbers) does not
> hold an official policy regarding dating. As a rule of thumb, the
> Pledge educator just does not date a pledge.
