[77] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: Meeting people
tjcoppet@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (tjcoppet@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Sun Jul 31 23:09:29 1988
That was the story of my life. Up until this year my experience has been an
occasional (once or twice per year) dinner or movie date. All I wished for
was someone to be with but I had this disease called "let's just be
friends."
After two rounds of this I just gave up. At the time one friendship turned
into "you look familar, have I seen you someplace before?" thing and the
other actually got better, we became better friends because of it.
When I met someone who could have been a good candidate for a round three, I
never bothered. I was too afraid of getting hurt again and I didn't want to
deal with it. MIT is not very forgiving for depression. We went through a
whole term just being friends and I never pushed for anything more. Then
during IAP we started seeing more of each other and things just sort of
happened. As a mater of fact tonight was the night I had to meet her
parents. I hope I passed. The ironic thing is that the other broken
friendship started to piece back together about the same time.
I guess what I'm saying is that it's better to let things happen. If a
friend is interested, she'll probably let you know in one form or another.
The biggest hurdle is probably patience. Some people may feel that 20 is a
bit late but I'm happy that I have the right person. This isn't much
consolation but there's not much that can be said outside of reciting old
figures of speech- they never worked on me. Maybe a strong 'good luck' is
in order because if there is some sort of trick or secret to finding love,
no one ever told me, I was just lucky.
The only way to beat most of the frustration is to stick by your friends
and do the things you like to do. Even with a relationship you need these
two things. (Actually my miracle cure was skydiving. I started that my
sophomore year and that left me feeling good for days. I haven't jumped in a
long time so maybe relationships do have their negative sides.)
