[3400] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: being taken for granted
mhbraun@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (mhbraun@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Tue Oct 27 19:41:22 1992
I recently discovered that in many ways that I give more than I receive...part
of this is that I ask for help, but part is due to me giving a lot. After the
Hurrican in Miami I drove down with a friend to help bail my family out
(cousins & aunts). My parents also drove down to help out, and when I asked
my father if he thought that my cousins would do the same for us he said "no"
I was not suprised. For some reason this did not bother me as much as I
thought it would. My current feeling is that people are capable of giving in
different ways, and some time there will be a time I will need something and
they will be able to give it , but until those conditions mactch up (if they
ever do) then the relationship will appear one-sided.
There is also a difference between 'giving' and 'having something taking' As
longs as *you* think that what you are doing 'is the right thing', it does not
matter how they take it.
Don't not do something because you think you are being taken advantage of if
you think that the right thing to do is to do it (did that make any sense ?).
