[121] in Depressing_Thoughts
Re: meeting people
aaron@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (aaron@ATHENA.MIT.EDU)
Wed Aug 3 22:04:14 1988
On the subject of sex, I simply make the claim that a person, decadent, evil
by some definitions, with an extra-relationship-al sexual partner, no
guilt, and all the erotic pleasures that he or she wants, will still feel
lonely, and still want and complain about the absence of an SO.
On the subject of the subject line, however, it is time to force the issue.
Granted, this is the depressing thoughts meeting, but does anyone have
anything constructive to say? Is there a way of thinking about this
issue that's not:
"There's no way this is ever going to work out, so I may as well kill myself"
"There's no way this is ever going to work out, so I may as well hole
up in the AI lab / Media lab / corporate research labe / etc. for the
rest of my life and let my hair grow long and unwashed."
"There's no way this is ever going to work out, so I may as well lower
my standards to the point where I can find someone to go out with, even
if I'm not terribly attracted to that person, and hope that I will learn
over time to appreciate that person's specialness." (Thank you Laura.)
Because we seem to have settled on "This is really difficult, takes a long
time, is extremely unpleasant, frustrating, etc., and only gets worse and
harder as time goes on." I.e. "There's no way this is ever going to
work out."
